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Facts About Domestic Violence

bulletEvery 15 seconds in the U.S. a woman is beaten.
bulletDomestic violence results in more injuries that require medical attention than rape, accidents and muggings combined.
bulletTwo in five women who are murdered are killed by their husbands.
bulletAt least 95 percent of all cases of partner abuse involve a man beating a woman.
bulletWoman abuse happens in all classes and races. It occurs at every level of income and education.
bulletViolence in the home usually becomes more frequent and severe over time. The abuser’s apologies do not mean the violence will not occur again.
bulletChildren who grow up in violent homes come to believe that violence is normal. They come to believe that it is an acceptable way to control someone else. The majority of adult violent prisoners were raised in violent homes.
bulletViolence is often part of a pattern of threats, insults, insane jealousy, explosive temper, and attempts to isolate and overpower the woman.

Myths About Domestic Violence

bulletMYTH: A man’s home is his castle. No one should interfere with the family.
bulletFACT: Battery is a crime! No one has the right to beat another person.
bulletMYTH: A woman who gets beaten brings it upon herself by nagging or provoking her spouse.
bulletFACT: People are beaten for reasons as ridiculous as: the dinner is cold; the TV was turned to the wrong channel; the baby was crying. Abusive people refuse to control their violent impulses. Even where the person may have reason to be angry, they have no right to express their anger violently.
bulletMYTH: A person who stays with an abuser after being beaten must like to be beaten.
bulletFACT: Being beaten hurts and no one likes it. There are many reasons why victims remain with abusers including their fear of further violence, the financial hardship of leaving, religious reasons, their emotional attachment to their partners, and their belief that families should stay together.

Is This Happening in Your Relationship?

Domestic violence is when one person tries to control another.  It is a cycle which repeats itself.

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Massachusetts Homicides 2003

 
Jan.
Feb.
March
April
May
June
July
Aug.
Sept.
Oct.
Nov.
Dec.
Women
2

2
1
1
3
1



 

Children
1
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 
 
Men
 
1
 
 
 
1
 
 
 
 
 
 
Bystanders
 
 

 
 
1
 
 
 
 
 

Family
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Cases Needing More Info
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Total
3
1
2
1
1
5
1



 

Massachusetts Homicides 2002
 
Jan.
Feb.
March
April
May
June
July
Aug.
Sept.
Oct.
Nov.
Dec.
Women
1
 
1
3
1
 
 
3
1
1
 
1
Children
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
4
 
 
Men
 
 
 
 
 
1
 
 
 
 
 
 
Bystanders
 
 
1
 
 
2
 
 
 
 
 
1
Family
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
1
Cases Needing More Info
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Total
1
 
2
3
1
3
 
3
1
5
 
3

Homicides 1991-2001
Year
Women
Children
Men
Bystanders
Family
Total
1991
21
3
2
1
2
29
1992
27
11
2
5
2
47
1993
23
4
5
1
2
35
1994
21
2
4
0
0
27
1995
31
3
6
4
2
46
1996
14
3
4
2
2
25
1997
16
3
2
1
2
24
1998
13
0
6
0
0
19
1999
20
2
0
12
0
34
2000
17
3
0
0
0
20
2001
11
0
4
2
0
17

Domestic Violence - What Can You Do?

Orders of Protection

bulletAn Order of Protection is a legal order from a judge used to help protect victims of domestic abuse. It contains "remedies" which order an abuser to take certain actions or prohibits him from taking certain actions. The abuser, listed as the "respondent," can be arrested for violating certain remedies listed in an order of protection. A protected person cannot be arrested for violating an Order of Protection.

How to Obtain an Order of Protection:

An order of protection is available to family or household members who have suffered domestic abuse. Request an Order of Protection by:

bulletContacting a local domestic violence program and asking for help. To locate the nearest program, call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
bulletGoing to the local circuit clerk’s office and asking for help.
bulletAsking an attorney to file a petition in civil court (such as divorce court).
bulletRequesting an order after criminal charges have been filed.

What if You Decide to Stay?

bulletAn Order of Protection may help. Consider these safety tips:
bulletChange the locks.
bulletInstall a security system, smoke alarms and outside lights.
bulletPre-program emergency numbers into the telephone.
bulletTell neighbors and ask they call police right away if they see the abuser.
bulletNotify work and try to arrange for your calls to be screened.
bulletReport any violation of the Order of Protection right away. Call 9-1-1.

What if You Decide to Leave?

Leaving an abusive relationship, even for a short time, can be difficult and dangerous. Leaving can be made easier and safer when you involve police and victim advocates and remember to bring along the following items:

bulletMoney, your checkbook, credit cards, ATM cards
bulletIdentification (for self and the children): birth certificates, social security cards, welfare I.D., school and work I.D., green cards, work permits, etc.
bulletImportant papers such as your divorce papers; school records; lease, rental agreement or house deed; and insurance papers
bulletOrder of Protection–if you have one, keep it with you at all times.
bulletMedical records
bulletMedications (prescription and over-the-counter)
bulletKeys for car, house and work
bulletChange of clothing
bulletAddress book
bulletMortgage/rent payment book
bulletCurrent unpaid bills
bulletPictures or other items of sentimental value
bulletChildren’s favorite toys, blankets or other items

What Must the Police Do?

Police officers must take action to protect the victim of domestic abuse. This includes:

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Arrest the abuser when there is enough information to believe a crime has been committed.

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Accompany victim to remove personal belongings from their home and provide for the victim’s transportation to a safe place.

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Inform victim of the procedures and relief available and their right to file charges against the abuser

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Complete a police report and provide the officer’s name and ID# to victims.

Domestic Related Resource Links & Sites

bulletViolence Against Women in the United States
bulletNational Domestic Violence Hotline
bulletStatistics on Domestic Violence
bulletDomestic Violence

Other Resources:

National Domestic Violence Coalition hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) TDD: 1-800-787-3224

 

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